3H or triforce of communication
This is a simple and mind-blowing communication tool.
It will immediately improve your connection to others and remove conflicts before they're created.
There are precisely three reasons for humans to communicate:
Level 1: To be heard.
Level 2: To be hugged.
Level 3: To be Helped.
3Hs = Hear, Hug, Help.
Most conflicts between humans are created because the responding person doesn't understand the goal the sending person has.
I used to directly jump to level 3 every time someone came to me and complained about something.
They wanted emotional support on level 2 and were not ready for solutions.
What followed was a heated discussion in which I proposed solutions, and the other person turned each one down.
Ultimately, both of us are drained, and no one is satisfied.
While commonly used in relationship therapy, the 3HS method is adaptable to all types of relationships-romantic, platonic, or professional.
Ask the other person which level they communicated on before answering.
This way, you will avoid 80% of fights and conflicts.
I reached a point where the people around me use the 3Hs proactively, making my life so easy.
The folks from the Multiamory podcast call it the Triforce of Communication.
Check out their podcasts.
You and your partners (romantic, platonic, and professional) can thank me later. ;)